It’s really not the same for both genders in those games. SFV was never forced to censor buttcrack shots of male characters, nor did they have to remove bouncing bulges or revealing costumes, like with Cammy’s overtly erect nipples (something you never see in DOA, actually). Likewise SC doesn’t have the same amount of strippage for the male characters, and they certainly don’t have a male equivalent of the alarmingly underage Talim. Even if it was the same for both genders in these games, though, I think DOA would still get grief, and I’ll explain why.
I agree that DOA’s stigma is closely tied to the Xtreme series, but I actually don’t think it would change even if men were given “equal time.” People would still just talk about boobs, because I think there’s a subtler kind of misogyny going on here. DOA is female-dominated as a franchise, and no other fighting game aside from Skullgirls can say that. I think it makes certain people uncomfortable, so they focus on the women’s looks instead, looking for a reason to dismiss them.